Dreams II- (Growing up together)

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Each child wants to have sibling to play with, to share thoughts and experiences with, and our Gargi was no exception to this. She always wanted to have little sister and not a brother because she felt that her sister will play with her and become her best friend. Finally god answered her prayers and she was blessed with little baby sister “Shuchi”. First time when Gargi saw Shuchi it was the happiest moment for Gargi, Shuchi looked at her with her eyes wide open, uncommon for a new born baby.

First day when Shuchi came home she starred everywhere, looking at the home as if she said to herself this is my home I am the owner of this house…..Little did anyone know at that time that she was going to be the owner in future and as far as Gargi was concerned she was more than happy in giving everything to her sister.

Gargi was very happy to have Shuchi if any of the neighbourhood kids came to see Shuchi, Gargi did not allow them saying she is my sister only I will play with her no one else, she was kind of possessive about her little sister. Gargi had to leave for school early in the morning and Shuchi always insisted to come with her. Things had changed a little after Shuchi’s arrival Gargi was expected to behave in more mature way she had to listen to comments like you are the elder you need to show more understanding.
Gargi was intelligent in studies and always scored good rank, while Shuchi was a multitalented person she could paint beautiful pictures and won many competitions, she could write poems, stories and was very creative. Gargi lacked creativity even drawing a simple straight line or circle was difficult for her, forget about making paintings. She was more of technical person loved complex calculations and her favorite subject in school was mathematics which is not in case of most of students.She was good in studies and more technical work and loved helping Shuchi in her studies. Shuchi wanted to do all the things that Gargi did and always wanted to be like her. Gargi was very happy with the creative work that her sister did and wondered sometimes why can’t I do things like her.
Strong bond was developed between two of them and days were passing happily for Gargi and Shuchi together………..

To be continued…..

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Carpe Diem

Few months ago just a day before a long weekend on a Friday morning stampede occurred on a railway station bridge in Mumbai,  people lost their lives. Most of them were on their daily commute to work, eagerly awaiting the long weekend, making plans for celebrating the Hindu festival of Dassera, planning for family outing for long weekend.In few minutes all those dreams were crashed.

Everywhere we read and hear instructions not to cross railway lines, use footover bridges for safety. But these people lost their lives inspite of taking a safe route, something which nobody had imagined happened.

In a second incident a fire broke in a pub just two-three days before New year’s Eve and again people lost their lives, some of them were celebrating a friend’s birthday, some had come to Mumbai to witness new year’s celebration in Mumbai. Alas all those dreams were crashed😕😕.

In this life we keep on making plans for future, but we don’t know what next second holds for us. Sometimes we want to say something to a loved one, catch up with a old friend, go on a vacation, shop for things we love, relax and read a good old book etc but keep on postponing it for some reason or another and then one fine day there is no time left to do that.

Life changes in a blink of eye, so don’t wait for special occasions, today is the special day of your life. Always remember

Burn the candles,Use the nice sheets, Wear the pearls.
Don’t save anything for special occasion.
Today is special enough.- Regina Brett

Dreams – I (Fight for what you want)

In this journey of life we come across different people, but only few of them really touch us and carve their permanent impression in our memory. Just few days back I came across one such person Gargi her story inspired me to writing………

Gargi as I said is no celebrity or has achieved anything out of this world but is simple and straightforward girl who wanted a simple and happy life. This is story of  her dreams, her struggles, her hardwork, her dedication, her determination, her pain, her loneliness, successes and failures both.

What can I say about Gargi she was very intelligent, dedicated, simple, straight forward or outspoken, very harsh with words but very kind at heart. Few kind words could make her happy and few harsh words could make her upset or angry easily.

Gargi was the first child of her parents and was apple of their eye, as young child she was average in her looks and slightly overweight, good in studies but not good in sports or any physical activities she always struggled in such things. Her inability to take part in games made her distance away from other children she could not mix and  play with them and was made fun of because of her overweight. She did not mind this much she liked more of games which required less physical activity and more mentally challenging like cards or chess or other indoor games. She had her own different games like when she used to visit a beach she used to collect the sand and bring it home with her  and spread that at home to get a feel of chowpatty (meaning Beach) at home. Such were her different games which she used to play all alone.

This kind of staying alone slowly changed her into a shy or reserved person who did not speak up much and so did not have many friends. In school also she stayed alone away from other classmates, she wanted to mix up with them, be friendly with them but did not know what to talk and everybody mistook her for being a egoistic person who does not feel other people are equal to her and so does not talk. This nature was going to create lot many difficulties in Gargi’s life latter which she was completely unaware of at this time.

As a young child Gargi loved to play on swings, swings around her home were always  full of children waiting to play in queues Gargi was also waiting for her turn in queue but the other children playing before her brought their friends breaking the queue and Gargi kept on waiting for her turn for nearly two hours, people kept on asking her can we take some more time and she agreed because she did not know how to say “No” or fight for her rights. Slowly it grew dark and everybody left then finally Gargi got her chance after a long wait that too for only few minutes because it was time to leave. This incident taught her a very important lesson that you have to ” fight for what you want else you will only get what is left over after everybody has taken. ” Next day onwards she learnt to demand when her turn came and fight with others if required………………

To be continued……..

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Dreams Novel

Till now I have published articles on many areas like  life experiences, travel diaries, inspiration stories and so on. However my first reason behind starting this blog was publishing a serial Novel “Dreams” which I had written sometime back but was not able publish.

Now that my blog is about to complete two years I  have decided to come back to my original idea. So here I will be soon presenting my readers with my first serial  novel ” Dreams” story of a simple girl as she learns to face the world….

Dreams – I (Fight for what you want)
Dreams II- (Growing up together)
Dreams III (I will follow your footsteps)
Dreams IV(Nothing is impossible)
Dreams V(First Big Examination
Dreams VI (Solo travel or First encounter with world)

Finish to Phoenix…A Journey

Years ago I met Gargi (name changed for privacy) a simple middle classed Indian girl who completed her Engineering in Information Technology from not so reputed college with a Pass Class. Those were the days of boom of IT service industry in India.

Most of the reputed IT companies till date in India demand a first class for freshers and  jobs are  filled through campus placement in reputed colleges. So Gargi was left with little but no options, she tried to apply for jobs using job sites but did not get any response. Months passed and she started loosing hope.

One day through somebody’ s reference she was called for an interview since it was her first interview without asking much details about the position she went for the interview. Few days after that she was called to join the company, without any formal letter just  with an oral confirmation, Gargi went to office for the first day. When she asked for the letter she was told she will get it in few days.

Gargi’ s job profile was that of a hardware Engineer and salary meager Rs 2500 (much lower than standard back in those days also), little did she have any idea of the work she was expected to do. Looking at the few trainees around she learnt how to assemble a PC and install the Operating system. Nobody around her explained her anything about work they just said you have to learn on your own, nobody assigned her any work also. She used to go to office every morning sit for 9 hours and go back home in evening. Life seemed like a drudgery but she had no choice as she had got this job with great difficulty and could not muster the courage to leave it.

One month passed this way and suddenly one day she was asked to leave and collect her pay cheque after few days, she was shocked, after waiting for months she had finally got a job and it was lost. It was not that she loved this job in fact day by day it was becoming more of punishment but now she was again a fresher with a pass class.

Much to her surprise within 15 days she was called for an interview in a small company, she was asked to solve an online IQ test and then leave. She went home and was just having her lunch when she got a call to join on the next working day. On her first day she was not assigned any work she started feeling worried what if these people also ask me to leave after a month or so then what, will I be able to survive here or not.

After two or three days she was assigned her first task of programming, she struggled for few days learning new technology and all along this, till she completed her first task she was worried that she will get fired if she cannot complete this. Another thing about this company was there were constant songs being played as everyone around was music lover. One such song particularly touched her as it matched her situation.

Song was about a “Broken winged bird ,who was robbed in such a way that he could never fly, down came he crashing on the ground but still dreamed of clouds (flying), in his broken pieces he saw the will of God and smiled, after losing his wings only he learned how to fly” .

She also felt like she was broken winged bird when she was fired from her first job, all her dreams crashed.But over a period of time she realized that this was God’s will which redirected her from job she hated to a career in a field she always wanted.

Once she completed her first task she got her confidence back that I will survive in this corporate world.After that days and years passed she learnt new things, switched on to new job and become a successful IT software Consultant. Had she not been fired from the first job in a month she would have been stuck in a job she hated and would have missed the career opportunities lying before her.

Sometimes we experience failures in life, things do not go the way we planned but later in life we realise this was God’s way to redirect us to something better.

Truly Rich

Few days ago one of my friends tagged an other friend in an FB post. The post showed a picture of “a safe with bundles of INR 2000 notes and said that tag a friend who has this much cash but still says I am poor”. Immediately a fight started ( not a serious one) where both of them started pulling each others leg by calling the other person rich. And soon I was also tagged by them in the post to decide who is richest.

I decided to pull both their legs and said one of you is rich NRI and other is richest person in India. To which one of them replied “I am richest not in money but in friends“. “Rich in friends” this answer left me thinking …….

I have spent most of my life in crowded city of Mumbai where families of four or five people live in a single bedroom house or some times even in a single room house.I stayed in USA where I have seen people have two or three bedroom or even bigger houses but are staying alone and have keep pets for company. After a days hard work when you return home, you have luxurious three bedroom apartment with all amenities but no one to talk to, no one to share how your day was or you have small but cosy home with a family with whom you can share your happiness, your sorrow, your struggles. Who is really rich of the two?

I am not saying money is not important or you should not be rich, certainly it is important you cannot live without it and there is nothing wrong in striving to earn more money to improve your financial status. Only thing I am saying you should not loose everything while running after money. Money can buy you lot many things but you cannot talk to it or share your joy, your pain your struggles with it for this you need friends.

When I look back at my career graph I never earned very high package or achieved anything great. I lived a average life, I earned enough to live a comfortable life but not a very high amount. Sometimes I compared myself with some of my colleagues with similar years of experience who had achieved much more growth in terms of salary or position than me and I used to feel bad about myself as if I am a loser what did I earn after all these years? Few days back I found the answer to this question I have few of my colleagues or my juniors who changed over a period of time from colleagues to friends, who I know will always speak good about me whether I am around or not , I earned trust and goodwill of people with whom I worked this is far more important for me than the so-called material success. After this I felt no I am not a loser I am a winner in my own terms……

Why Cry?

While browsing on the internet I came across a very beautiful video sharing below the gist of the same

Initially the speaker in the video tells a joke and all the people around him laugh, he again repeats the same joke only a few people smile, he keeps on repeating the same joke 3-4 times and people stop reacting…..

Then he says I repeated the same joke again and again initially you laughed but now you have became quiet if I keep on repeating same thing you will start thinking there is something wrong with this person he is saying samething again and again.

Thing is you cannot laugh at same joke again and again then why cry over the same problem again and again….

Problems, issues, difficulties will keep on coming no matter who you are…

चिंता (pronounce-Chinta Meaning- Anxiety) and
चिता (pronounce-Chita Meaning- Funeral pyre)

If you observe carefully there is only a difference of dot in the way two words are written but the real difference is much bigger between the two, funeral pyre burns a dead person only once, but anxiety or worry keeps on burning a living person daily, each moment of life.

All our lives are plans of God and there is a reason behind every difficulty which comes our way only thing is we don’t know the reason, so “Smile” even when you are facing the difficulties it’s God’s plan for you and something good is going to come out of it.

18 resolutions for 2018

Today on the first day of new year 2018 I have planned 18 things to do in this year

Fitness (both body and mind)

  • Walk atleast 2.5 km every day with no cell phone around, disconnecting yourself from all the phone calls, social networking apps and alerts
  • Meditate twice a day for 5 mins each to reduce the stress
  • Reduce the intake of fried food and eat more healthy stuff like fruits.Most difficult of all……

Reading

  • Read atleast one good book each month so about 12 in year.

Music

  • Listen to any of my favorite songs for atleast 15 mins a day to calm the mind and reduce stress.

Travel

  • Go on solo trip to any destination in India preferably in months of Jan or Feb before the summer starts
  • Add one more stamp on my passport, Go on International trip to either Malaysia or Australia or Europe

Learning 

  • Do some experiments in kitchen not only to satisfy taste buds but also to improve my cooking skills
  • Learn something new maybe playing a musical instrument or a foreign language not yet decided
  • Being an ERP technical consultant I will also study new technologies to upgrade my technical skills
  • Improve my financial knowledge, learn more about investment options to manage my savings more efficiently.

Blogging

  • Till now I have been writing this blog in English but now I am Planning to add a new section to my blog in my Mother tongue “Marathi” Section will be labelled “Maiboli (meaning Mother tongue)”. English section will also be continued and not stopped.
  • I will be more consistent in writing and will try to publish atleast 3-4 articles each month on my blog.

Entertainment

  • Bored of long running seemingly never ending Indian daily soaps I have decided to cut myself off completely from them. Instead I have started watching more of International TV shows like “This is Us” , “Modern Family”,”Silicon Valley” etc this year, will add few more of such classic shows in this list. Sad part is there will be no season of “Game of thrones” this year.
  • Till now I did not have much liking for the movies. Last year I watched few very good movies (Genre- Drama) like “Wonder”, “Forrest Gump”, “127 hours” etc which were different from most of the  movies, which revolve around romance, action or comedy. This year also I am planning to identify such different movies based on their reviews and watch them.

Changing Myself

  • I am little reserved in nature and do not mingle easily with new people but this year I will try to change myself be a little more outgoing and try to make new friends
  • I am sensitive person and slightest remark from anyone can bring tears in my eyes this year I will try to be more strong and will not let small things hurt me easily.
  • Sometimes while watching comedy movies I saw people around me laughing loudly till their belly hurts, but I can only manage to give a small smile not more than that.I cannot experience the real joy, cannot feel free but this year I will try to change this loosen up a little, live very freely without worrying what others will think about me.

Not sure how many of these I will be able to achieve this year but there is different kind of joy in planning. Sometimes Journey is more beautiful than destination.