Dreams VI (Solo travel or first encounter with world)

 

After the 10th board exam the process of applying for admission to junior college started. Gargi decided that her preference will be to college nearer to her home. So accordingly she applied for admission to the college nearer to her home. Even though the college was quite near as she lived in northern tip of her city and the college fell outside the boundary of the city in the adjoining town transport options were not so straightforward.Gargi was completely unaware of how to reach this place, first day she went with her Mom to apply for admission in this college, when they tried to catch a Rickshaw (a three wheeler vehicle popularly used like a taxi in India) ,the Rick driver said that he can only drop till the end point of Mumbai referred to as “Checknaka” from there you have to take another rick. So after changing into two rickshaws Gargi finally reached her college and applied for admission.

Over next few days she had to travel to college 2-3 times to complete the admission process always by rickshaw and accompained by one of her parents. During this she came to know that there is college bus service which drops students at fixed points, one of which was at walkable distance from her home.She thought I will enroll in this later once college starts so all issue of travelling solved.

On first day when she enquired about college bus service she came to know that was full, she felt lost. Luckily she met another girl in her class who stayed near her home who told her that you have to walk for about 1 km from here to a bus stop, from where multiple buses are available to your designated bus stop, same point where college bus would drop you and from there again a walk of about 1 km to reach home.

Next day Gargi started on her first solo journey by public transport, she walked till the bus stop immediately she got a bus which was very crowded. Journey was of only 5 -7 mins by bus, but travelling alone she felt scared will I be able to identify correct stop, what if I get lost? In Mumbai life is very fast and if you have to use public transport you have to be ready at the door well in advance of designated stop. You have to get down in matter of seconds else you will taken ahead to the next stop.

With slight doubt in mind whether this is correct bus stop or not, Gargi got down at her stop.She started walking trying to recollect the route shown to her yesterday by her classmate.At each turning of the road she felt confused whether I am going right way or not, finally she reached her college.

This may appear as a very small incident to anyone but to Gargi this was major incident, her first experience of travelling alone in public transport, her first encounter with the outside world.This incident gave her the confidence that even I can be independent, go anywhere I want.

Little did she know at that time that this is only a small journey, a beggining and later on in life she will have to travel across the seas to a foreign land all alone, in pursuit of her dreams…….

To be continued…..

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Kanyakumari-Southern tip of India

Kanyakumari a small coastal town on the southern most tip of mainland India, in the state of TamilNadu. Town derives it name from ancient legend which say Goddess Kumari  Amman (Kumari meaning Virgin) , incarnation of Goddess Parvati who prayed here to Lord Shiva to accept her as his wife.

How to reach:

By Air:- Thiruvananthpuram or Trivandrum International Airport is the nearest airport located in neighbouring state of Kerala. From Thiruvananthpuram it takes about 3 hours to reach here by bus, train or taxi.

By Rail:- Very well connected and serviced by rail to all major cities in India like Chennai, Trivandrum , Kochi, Bangalore, Bombay, New Delhi, Kolkata, Coimbatore etc.

What to see:

Most of the attractions are in close proximity of each other and can be traversed on foot or by Auto Rickhaws

  1. Kanyakumari TempleKanyakumari Temple is also referred to as Bhagvaty Amman Temple and is one of the 108 Shakti Peetha in Hindu mythology.The Devi stands as a charming young girl in her penance with a rosary in her right hand, and a sparkling nose jewel that sheds lustrous radiance.
  2. TriSamudra Milan (Triveni Sangam)- Confluence of Arabian sea, Bay of bengal and Indian Ocean.
  3. Vivekanand Memorial– Vivekananda Rock Memorial is located 100 meters from the shore and is one of the major tourist attractions in Kanyakumari, was built in 1970 in honour of Swami Vivekanand who is said to have attended enlightenment on the rock. The small rock island can be reached by a ferry and consists of two main structures. Ticket for the ferry is Rs 34 and it operated from 8 AM to 4 PM. The Vivekananda Mandapam (host a bronze statue of Swami Vivekanand) and the Shripada Mandapam (A small projection in shape of human foot is seen here and as per the legend this is the feet of goddess KanyaKumari who performed penance here to marry Lord Shiva) are the two main complexes of the memorial and is frequented by thousands of tourists.
  4. Thiruvalluvar Statue-The massive 133 feet tall statue is of the Saint Poet Thiruvalluvar, who was considered to be one of the greatest Tamil poets in India. This can be reached by the ferry from Vivekanand Memorial.The pedestal of the statue is artistically designed and is decorated with 10 elephants that signify the various directions.
  5. Sunset & Sunrise view Points– Not to be missed are the mesmerizing views of Sunrise over Bay of Bengal from Sunrise view point located near to Kanyakumari Temple. Sunrise can be seen throughout the year. Sunrise_kanyakumari
    Sunset point is little far away from the rest of the places can be easily reached by AutoRickshaws. Sunset is usually not visible in monsoon months from June to September due to cloudy sky.Sunset_kanyakumari

100th Day of Year 2018

Today 10th April is the 100th day of year 2018, it seems as if just few days back we welcomed the year 2018 and now even before we realised 100 days have passed…. ever thought what did we do in these 100 days ? what did we gain ? what did we lose? How many of our new year resolutions are still active?I decided  to look back on my 100 days with above questions in my mind…

Sound Mind in Sound Body

As the old saying goes “Sound Mind in Sound Body” I had made a resolution this year to walk atleast 2.5km (1.55 miles) daily and also purchased a fitness band to keep a track of same. Today I am happy to announce that when I checked the data I found that on an average I have walked 3KM (1.86 miles) per day.

“Once a year go some place you’ve never been before”- Dalai Lama

Being Travel lover and blogger, I had made a resolution that every year I will go on atleast one vacation to a place I have never been before, can be domestic or International. This year I went to Kerala (State in South India) popularly known as God’s own country, land of coconut trees and beautiful beaches,soothing backwaters. To have glimpse of this popular tourist destination in India check the youtube video below

Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success. – Swami Vivekananda

For years I was looking for some work which will make me happy not something which you do for a paycheck but finding your true joy, your true passion in life. And just few days back I found that work I started writing a technical blog to share the knowledge I gained over years working as ERP  consultant. As of now this blog is completely free and available to anyone who wants gain more knowledge. I am happy to share that in just 5 days of publishing this blog has got more than 1.1K views.

https://peoplesoftinterviewguide.wordpress.com/

 

This was my review of past 100 days do look back on yours and also do let me know your thought on above post in comments below……..

Life is precious

After every few days we read a news about suicide reason can be anything failure in exam or fear of failure in exam, failure in love relationship, issues in marital relationship or workplace issues or ragging in college etc. Are these reasons sufficient to end your life? What about the people who love you, care for you how will this effect them?Does failure in one particular area of life mean you are a failure and have to end your life?

I have faced lot many ups and downs in life, in a span of few months I was cheated and made a victim of financial fraud worth almost $1500 by someone I considered friend, few months after that bank where I had deposited my saving was freezed due to bad loans and I lost access to my own money, I lost my job and could not get other one for months…….

My whole world turned upside down I spent days crying and feeling depressed, sometimes I even felt that I don’t want to live I want to die …………………….

In such moments of gloom I kept on thinking why me? why is my life so hard ?What did I do wrong?why am I being punished?

On such days of gloom while thinking about past I remembered those days when I used to take my dad to hospital for his treatment when I used to pass around the cancer ward and see young kids  suffering from the disease, some of them had feeding tubes (feeding tube is a medical device used to provide nutrition to patients who cannot obtain nutrition by mouth, are unable to swallow safely, or need nutritional supplementation) , even eating normal food from their mouth a basic need was denied to them……Still they are living, fighting for their life, inspite of all the pain they have to go through….. Then isn’t my life better than them why should I even think of dying?

Whenever you feel low in life, just think about the people out there who are not as fortunate as you are , who maybe more than happy to have your life, don’t give your life for anyone or any reason, nobody is worth, no reason is worth it………

 

Childhood Nostalgia

Few days back I heard a hindi song being played

Ye Daulat bhi lelo

Ye Shoharat bhi lelo

Bhale chinlo mujhse meri jawani

Magar muzhko lauta do wo bachpan ka sawaan

Wo kagaaz ki kashti wo baarish ka pani..

Meaning-Take away all my wealth, my fame and even my youth but return me my childhood, days when I used to float paper boats in rain water, return me those days.

While listening to this my mind flew back to my childhood memories when during rainy days when schools got closed due to water logging we used to still make our way till school wading through knee deep water for shear fun of walking and playing in water, fact that our clothes will get dirty, we might catch some infection etc never came to the mind back then.

Hitech games on smartphones cannot match the joy of playing every evening on swings with friends,playing card games with friends in afternoon,running around a table in home trying to catch each other etc.

All such uncountable memories of those carefree, stress free days make us reliaze that joy of life can be found in simple things and even memories of those days brings smile on our face and tears in our eyes…

Strength-Facing Hardship or Moving Away?

Few days back I read a post on facebook about domestic violence wherein a Husband educated IT professional used to beat and torture his wife for years, he even made her maintain excel sheet with details of daily household chores and provide him with regular updates of daily task and if he found any details missing in the sheet he used to beat and abuse her.He even threatened her to kill their daughter, finally after years of such torture wife decided to move out and seek divorce.Why and how was she able to bear this for so long about 8-10 years is a big question?
Daily we hear such stories about domestic abuse, dowry deaths,suicides for years women keep on facing such abuse but still stay with such husbands why some say it is for the kids, some for the fear of what will society say, some due to lack of support from parents and family.
Many of daily soaps in India are female centered which depict a female character with unrealistic standards who has so much love for her husband, family , in laws that no matter how they treat her she does not back answer,faces all the abuse with smiling face,her only moto in life is that once she is has arrived in her Husbands’s house in “Doli” (Meaning-Palanquin used in Marriage procession) now she will only leave this house on “Arthi” (Meaning-Funeral bier).Is this right thinking?
Facing all kinds of wrong behaviour,physical or mental torture and still continuing may be considered by some people as sign of strength. And moving out, leaving such people behind might be considered by some people as lack of ability to face difficulties or running away from hard situations, but according to me it takes more courage to break free from hard situations, without worrying about what will people say,leaving all the future worries aside and just move away.
So whether it is an abusive relationship at home or mental torture at workplace just let go of such things which bring you down, free yourself, life is too short to waste on such people who do not value you.