Pursuit of happiness

Last month I went on small vacation to Mount Abu (A hill station in state of Rajasthan in India).Before travelling to this place I had searched on Internet and found that is a year round destination and even though June-September is rainy season in India, this place does not experience that heavy rainfall, so I thought this a good time to travel.

We boarded the train on Friday reached place on Saturday, roamed to different attractions on Saturday, Sunday and first half of Monday, till here everything was fine, we even boarded the night train on Monday and were supposed to reach home by Tuesday morning 7:30 AM, train was going at usual speed, reaching all the stations on scheduled time just when we were less than 100 miles from our final destination train suddenly stopped on intermediate station which was not regular half, initially everyone thought it will start in few minutes but soon minutes turned into hours and there was no sign of train moving upon enquiring we came to know that due water logging on railway tracks few miles trains are all stuck. After a long wait and changing multiple trains,buses and taxi we finally reached home at 7:30 in evening exactly 12 hours late.

This experience made me think and I looked back at my travels of few years. Suddenly I felt as if Am I travelling too much? Are all my journeys making me happy?So I prepared a list of expenses for each trip, things which I loved about the places and places which seemed not at all worthy of visit.

While comparing this I observed that some of trips specially international ones had cost more than two hundred thousand INR and some very small or unplanned ones to nearby weekend destinations costing less than five thousand INR but when I looked back at the memories of these places, I found that joy, happiness ,excitement of seeing something new, does not depend on whether the places is expensive or not.

For some of these trips I even lost the pics I had clicked as the old PC where I had stored the files is practically not working and I did not post these pics on social media, without the pic to see and without even posting any enhanced pictures on social media for others to see and like some destinations still seem unforgettable and make some lifetime memories.

On the whole I concluded that happiness does not come from how expensive the place is or how popular the place is orhow beautiful pics you click or how many likes you get on social media.

Happiness in turn depends on how much the place touches your soul, waking up to view of snow clad mountains in distance,seeing the entire valley getting covered in fog making you feel as if you are in clouds, getting drenched in the rain without worrying about catching cold, spending a quiet evening on beach watching a sunset,trying your hands at a scary adventure activities and in turn conquering your deep fears…. gives you deep satisfaction and happiness irrespective place or expenses or duration of the trip. There are somethings money cannot buy and true happiness is one of them.
So the only goal behind travelling is not visiting popular and expensive destinations or clicking awesome pictures to decorate your social media profile but a welcome break from your daily routinr, seeing or experiencing something new, meeting new people, admiring the beauty of nature, conquering your fears. It’s a way of lifting your heart to a new state of joy, peace and tranquility.


I am free women,Are you?

Few days back I read a news over internet that women finally got the right to drive a car in one part of this world.This news left me thinking is this a good news? We are in 21st century and till now in some corner of the world women have to fight for such small freedom,they are being deprived of such small things like driving a car or travelling alone without male companion.

As I thought about this I felt I am privileged that I live in more free society where I got opportunity to get educated in field of my choice, have a career of my choice, freedom to travel across the world etc. But then I suddenly remembered few incidents from the past.

At one time I was chatting with my lady colleagues, all of them were educated and earned a decent pay, discussion somehow came to the topic of investment options, tax savings etc and most of them seemed to have no clue on financial matters as these were managed by their parents or husband, one of them even said why do you worry about savings “uske liye to husband hain (meaning- Husband is there to manage all savings)”, this was shocking to me….

One more such incident one of my friend told me, about her colleague whose husband used to keep even her salary account cheque book locked, if he was out of town then she had no access to her own cheque book. What is point of having a high paying job if you do not have access to your own money? Everytime you need money you need to ask someone to give you your own money?

These incidents left me thinking inspite of living in free society where women have equal rights as men are these women really free?????

Freedom is not just wearing the clothes you like, or partying with friends till late night or going on vacations or outings with friend ,according to me far more important is having financial freedom.

By financial freedom I do not mean that you tell your husband or a family to mind his own business and I will use my money my way, no… thats not what I mean…..
Investment related decisions could be mutual where both the parties have equal involvement in jointly managing the money, where each one is completely aware of all the assets they hold together and each one has right to express his opinion when it comes to investing the money. According to me only when financial freedom becomes reality then only we can really say “We are free”.

All my education as well as work experience is technical in field of software engineering and I have no financial background but still I learned about many investment options starting from simple bank fixed deposits to risky investment options like stock market so that at no point in time I have to depend on anyone financially, so I can rightfully say

I am free women

Loom of time

Beautiful poem I had read long time back in one of my English textbooks, sharing it here for my readers
Man’s life is laid in the loom of time
To a pattern he does not see,
While the weavers work and the shuttles fly
Till the dawn of eternity.

Some shuttles are filled with silver threads
And some with threads of gold,
While often but the darker hues
Are all that they may hold.

But the weaver watches with skillful eye
Each shuttle fly to and fro,
And sees the pattern so deftly wrought
As the loom moves sure and slow.

God surely planned the pattern:
Each thread, the dark and fair,
Is chosen by His master skill
And placed in the web with care.

He only knows its beauty,
And guides the shuttles which hold
The threads so unattractive,
As well as the threads of gold.

Not till each loom is silent,
And the shuttles cease to fly,
Shall God reveal the pattern
And explain the reason why

The dark threads were as needful
In the weaver’s skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver
For the pattern which He planned.

100th Day of Year 2018

Today 10th April is the 100th day of year 2018, it seems as if just few days back we welcomed the year 2018 and now even before we realised 100 days have passed…. ever thought what did we do in these 100 days ? what did we gain ? what did we lose? How many of our new year resolutions are still active?I decided  to look back on my 100 days with above questions in my mind…

Sound Mind in Sound Body

As the old saying goes “Sound Mind in Sound Body” I had made a resolution this year to walk atleast 2.5km (1.55 miles) daily and also purchased a fitness band to keep a track of same. Today I am happy to announce that when I checked the data I found that on an average I have walked 3KM (1.86 miles) per day.

“Once a year go some place you’ve never been before”- Dalai Lama

Being Travel lover and blogger, I had made a resolution that every year I will go on atleast one vacation to a place I have never been before, can be domestic or International. This year I went to Kerala (State in South India) popularly known as God’s own country, land of coconut trees and beautiful beaches,soothing backwaters. To have glimpse of this popular tourist destination in India check the youtube video below

Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success. – Swami Vivekananda

For years I was looking for some work which will make me happy not something which you do for a paycheck but finding your true joy, your true passion in life. And just few days back I found that work I started writing a technical blog to share the knowledge I gained over years working as ERP  consultant. As of now this blog is completely free and available to anyone who wants gain more knowledge. I am happy to share that in just 5 days of publishing this blog has got more than 1.1K views.



This was my review of past 100 days do look back on yours and also do let me know your thought on above post in comments below……..

Life is precious

After every few days we read a news about suicide reason can be anything failure in exam or fear of failure in exam, failure in love relationship, issues in marital relationship or workplace issues or ragging in college etc. Are these reasons sufficient to end your life? What about the people who love you, care for you how will this effect them?Does failure in one particular area of life mean you are a failure and have to end your life?

I have faced lot many ups and downs in life, in a span of few months I was cheated and made a victim of financial fraud worth almost $1500 by someone I considered friend, few months after that bank where I had deposited my saving was freezed due to bad loans and I lost access to my own money, I lost my job and could not get other one for months…….

My whole world turned upside down I spent days crying and feeling depressed, sometimes I even felt that I don’t want to live I want to die …………………….

In such moments of gloom I kept on thinking why me? why is my life so hard ?What did I do wrong?why am I being punished?

On such days of gloom while thinking about past I remembered those days when I used to take my dad to hospital for his treatment when I used to pass around the cancer ward and see young kids  suffering from the disease, some of them had feeding tubes (feeding tube is a medical device used to provide nutrition to patients who cannot obtain nutrition by mouth, are unable to swallow safely, or need nutritional supplementation) , even eating normal food from their mouth a basic need was denied to them……Still they are living, fighting for their life, inspite of all the pain they have to go through….. Then isn’t my life better than them why should I even think of dying?

Whenever you feel low in life, just think about the people out there who are not as fortunate as you are , who maybe more than happy to have your life, don’t give your life for anyone or any reason, nobody is worth, no reason is worth it………


Childhood Nostalgia

Few days back I heard a hindi song being played

Ye Daulat bhi lelo

Ye Shoharat bhi lelo

Bhale chinlo mujhse meri jawani

Magar muzhko lauta do wo bachpan ka sawaan

Wo kagaaz ki kashti wo baarish ka pani..

Meaning-Take away all my wealth, my fame and even my youth but return me my childhood, days when I used to float paper boats in rain water, return me those days.

While listening to this my mind flew back to my childhood memories when during rainy days when schools got closed due to water logging we used to still make our way till school wading through knee deep water for shear fun of walking and playing in water, fact that our clothes will get dirty, we might catch some infection etc never came to the mind back then.

Hitech games on smartphones cannot match the joy of playing every evening on swings with friends,playing card games with friends in afternoon,running around a table in home trying to catch each other etc.

All such uncountable memories of those carefree, stress free days make us reliaze that joy of life can be found in simple things and even memories of those days brings smile on our face and tears in our eyes…

Strength-Facing Hardship or Moving Away?

Few days back I read a post on facebook about domestic violence wherein a Husband educated IT professional used to beat and torture his wife for years, he even made her maintain excel sheet with details of daily household chores and provide him with regular updates of daily task and if he found any details missing in the sheet he used to beat and abuse her.He even threatened her to kill their daughter, finally after years of such torture wife decided to move out and seek divorce.Why and how was she able to bear this for so long about 8-10 years is a big question?
Daily we hear such stories about domestic abuse, dowry deaths,suicides for years women keep on facing such abuse but still stay with such husbands why some say it is for the kids, some for the fear of what will society say, some due to lack of support from parents and family.
Many of daily soaps in India are female centered which depict a female character with unrealistic standards who has so much love for her husband, family , in laws that no matter how they treat her she does not back answer,faces all the abuse with smiling face,her only moto in life is that once she is has arrived in her Husbands’s house in “Doli” (Meaning-Palanquin used in Marriage procession) now she will only leave this house on “Arthi” (Meaning-Funeral bier).Is this right thinking?
Facing all kinds of wrong behaviour,physical or mental torture and still continuing may be considered by some people as sign of strength. And moving out, leaving such people behind might be considered by some people as lack of ability to face difficulties or running away from hard situations, but according to me it takes more courage to break free from hard situations, without worrying about what will people say,leaving all the future worries aside and just move away.
So whether it is an abusive relationship at home or mental torture at workplace just let go of such things which bring you down, free yourself, life is too short to waste on such people who do not value you.

Reading the book of life

Life is a book and those who do not travel, read only one page

I came across this quote somewhere while browsing on the internet and felt like very true. Each place you visit, leaves an impression on your mind, each experience you have changes you into a new person, each journey you undertake teaches you something different and gives you uncountable memories.

I have traveled a lot, and had a glimpse of many wonders of nature like vast oceans, cool and windy beaches, deep canyons, desert sands, green mountains to snow clad peaks of Himalayas, mesmerizing views of sunset and sunrise……But travel is not just viewing the attractions,attractions are just a part of it. Along with this you also get to learn about people, local cultures, traditions, taste of local cuisines, adjusting to new weather, chilling cold or scorching heat or heavy rains.

In my travel I have meet a lot of people and saw both good and bad faces of human nature, I have seen cab drivers charging exorbitant amounts from tourist by pretending destination is far, hotels trying to extract more money from tourist if you arrive without advance booking and try to book on the spot,people pretending to help you with loading  your luggage in bus or train without asking and then demand some unreasonable amount of money for the same, waiters who stand on your head to see if you keep any tip or not, people selling items at double price in tourist spot etc.

Along with this bad face, I have also seen the other side of the coin, I have seen some people who go out of their way to help other travelers, like in one of my journey in a hill station in Himachal Pradesh (State in North India) , I had to board a early morning bus to my next destination and bus stop was very near to my Hotel, early in the morning I just went to the bus stop to enquire about the bus, the conductor said the bus leaves in 10 mins, I told him I have to get my luggage from hotel, after knowing this he came with me to hotel and helped me to quickly carry my luggage to the bus so that I don’t miss it.  On another such journey after long bus ride when we finally reached near our destination, the conductor told us to get down little before the bus stand as we can get taxis to hotel easily from there, not only this he himself went and negotiated with taxi driver and aske d him to shows us few good hotels so that we can select any one from them.

In this life when even close friends cheat each other for few bucks and we have to be on constant guard to save ourselves from people around us, such strangers show us a different face of world and make us believe humanity still exists.

This is what travelling is, it is not just sightseeing, but collection of all such experiences which  shows us both the ugly and beautiful face of human nature.Some things can only be learnt by experiencing it yourselves and not by reading or listening to others and for that you have to travel. As someone rightly said

I am not the same having seen the moon shine on the other side of the world.

Carpe Diem

Few months ago just a day before a long weekend on a Friday morning stampede occurred on a railway station bridge in Mumbai,  people lost their lives. Most of them were on their daily commute to work, eagerly awaiting the long weekend, making plans for celebrating the Hindu festival of Dassera, planning for family outing for long weekend.In few minutes all those dreams were crashed.

Everywhere we read and hear instructions not to cross railway lines, use footover bridges for safety. But these people lost their lives inspite of taking a safe route, something which nobody had imagined happened.

In a second incident a fire broke in a pub just two-three days before New year’s Eve and again people lost their lives, some of them were celebrating a friend’s birthday, some had come to Mumbai to witness new year’s celebration in Mumbai. Alas all those dreams were crashed😕😕.

In this life we keep on making plans for future, but we don’t know what next second holds for us. Sometimes we want to say something to a loved one, catch up with a old friend, go on a vacation, shop for things we love, relax and read a good old book etc but keep on postponing it for some reason or another and then one fine day there is no time left to do that.

Life changes in a blink of eye, so don’t wait for special occasions, today is the special day of your life. Always remember

Burn the candles,Use the nice sheets, Wear the pearls.
Don’t save anything for special occasion.
Today is special enough.- Regina Brett

Finish to Phoenix…A Journey

Years ago I met Gargi (name changed for privacy) a simple middle classed Indian girl who completed her Engineering in Information Technology from not so reputed college with a Pass Class. Those were the days of boom of IT service industry in India.

Most of the reputed IT companies till date in India demand a first class for freshers and  jobs are  filled through campus placement in reputed colleges. So Gargi was left with little but no options, she tried to apply for jobs using job sites but did not get any response. Months passed and she started loosing hope.

One day through somebody’ s reference she was called for an interview since it was her first interview without asking much details about the position she went for the interview. Few days after that she was called to join the company, without any formal letter just  with an oral confirmation, Gargi went to office for the first day. When she asked for the letter she was told she will get it in few days.

Gargi’ s job profile was that of a hardware Engineer and salary meager Rs 2500 (much lower than standard back in those days also), little did she have any idea of the work she was expected to do. Looking at the few trainees around she learnt how to assemble a PC and install the Operating system. Nobody around her explained her anything about work they just said you have to learn on your own, nobody assigned her any work also. She used to go to office every morning sit for 9 hours and go back home in evening. Life seemed like a drudgery but she had no choice as she had got this job with great difficulty and could not muster the courage to leave it.

One month passed this way and suddenly one day she was asked to leave and collect her pay cheque after few days, she was shocked, after waiting for months she had finally got a job and it was lost. It was not that she loved this job in fact day by day it was becoming more of punishment but now she was again a fresher with a pass class.

Much to her surprise within 15 days she was called for an interview in a small company, she was asked to solve an online IQ test and then leave. She went home and was just having her lunch when she got a call to join on the next working day. On her first day she was not assigned any work she started feeling worried what if these people also ask me to leave after a month or so then what, will I be able to survive here or not.

After two or three days she was assigned her first task of programming, she struggled for few days learning new technology and all along this, till she completed her first task she was worried that she will get fired if she cannot complete this. Another thing about this company was there were constant songs being played as everyone around was music lover. One such song particularly touched her as it matched her situation.

Song was about a “Broken winged bird ,who was robbed in such a way that he could never fly, down came he crashing on the ground but still dreamed of clouds (flying), in his broken pieces he saw the will of God and smiled, after losing his wings only he learned how to fly” .

She also felt like she was broken winged bird when she was fired from her first job, all her dreams crashed.But over a period of time she realized that this was God’s will which redirected her from job she hated to a career in a field she always wanted.

Once she completed her first task she got her confidence back that I will survive in this corporate world.After that days and years passed she learnt new things, switched on to new job and become a successful IT software Consultant. Had she not been fired from the first job in a month she would have been stuck in a job she hated and would have missed the career opportunities lying before her.

Sometimes we experience failures in life, things do not go the way we planned but later in life we realise this was God’s way to redirect us to something better.