Life

Beware – Crime knocks at your door

Sometime back while watching television I saw few episodes of shows like “Savdhaan India” ,”Crime patrol” etc which deal with real life shocking crime stories. In many of these cases the criminal was someone very close to the victim maybe a relative or a very trusted friend. Also crime before it occurs leaves lot of signs on the way but the victim fails to notice and save himself. I always used to wander how do the victims trust someone so much miss few suspicious activities of the criminal? Why don’t they see anything wrong? until I become a victim myself.

About a year back I travelled to USA for work and stayed their for few months.I found an ad for roommate on internet and went to see the place with my colleague. I liked the place and moved in quickly, it was a two bedroom house and I had rented one of the bedrooms.

My roommate was nice and very friendly who used to guide me about how take care of myself while in USA. She told me things like anytime you feel that you are unsafe or you face any other issue call 911 and you will get help.On my first travel she came till bus stop and saw that I boarded the right bus and also requested the driver to let me know when my stop comes. Being a vegetarian and not very good cook myself  she sometimes cooked food for both of us. Whenever I used to feel low due to some issues in office she used to console and provide me the moral support. She also warned me about scams wherein people call you and pretending to be police ask about your SSN and say that there is arrest warrant or some fraud in your name and if you do not pay money to them you will be arrested. She told me never to share any information over such calls and not worry about the same also.

In few months she became a good friend and trusted support to me. In short she used to say that I am like her elder sister to her. Lease for that house was till April end and she was planning to travel back to India in first or second week of May so I would have to find a new accommodation by then.

Somewhere after mid February she told me that since the lease is about to end property manager might come any time to check so be careful and since our names are not on lease we may land in trouble, so next month onwards do not go near the mailbox. I will go get the letters when no one else is around and give you your letters. Possiblity of someone catching us while checking mailbox seemed very remote to me, anyways I did not suspect anything major or serious in this so just left this as it is. She used to get everybody’s letters and hand it over.

Things continued happily between us untill last week of lease came and I was not able to find any accommodation for myself. I had posted ad for roommate on Craiglist and sulekha.com for room. My roommate and friend left the house one week earlier for a vacation with friends. Last two days were left in house and still I had no where to go…

And suddenly one morning I got a call from a credit card company saying that you have an outstanding due of around huge amount. I told them I do not have the credit card of that company so no question of dues. Person on the phone asked for last four digits of my SSN. This added to my suspicion that this is some crook who has got my number from ad I posted on internet so I told her I cannot share any details with you, she gave me her customer care no and asked to call for any further details that I needed and disconnected the call.

I was about to ignore this and go on with my usual routine but suddenly somehow I felt let me check the mailbox once that I am about to leave this place in two days better collects letters if any before leaving. I was in for big shock when I saw the mailbox their was a credit card bill lying in my name in the box for a credit card which I never had ……

Now I realised that the call was not a scam I was cheated, I am a victim of financial fraud…..I called the credit card company back and informed about the fraud they verified my details and the address and SSN matched, however emailid was slightly different from my emailid which is why I never got any emails. I came to know that fraud card was applied in month of February and was shipped to my address only so there was no way it was received by outsider. Card was blocked and financial enquiry was initiated.

I was heartbroken, some incidents of past few months flashed before my eyes I was going to apply for credit card from this company but my roommate advised me not to as they charge high APR and have many hidden charges, not to check the mailbox so that I don’t get any bills or any other communication regarding this card. She had no closet so asked for sharing my closet which was good excuse for her to come to my room even when I was not present and access my documents. I was backstabbed by someone whom I trusted more than myself, it was hard to believe.

Angry and hurt I called her and told her about the fraud her reaction was even more shocking she said such wrong charges are credit card companies mistake nothing serious she tried to make me feel that I am wrong in suspecting and pretended to be hurt by my behaviour. I said I am calling the police let them find out the truth and disconnected. After that she and her friends started calling me repeatedly trying persuade me from calling the police using the excuse that I am staying in house lease for which is not in my name so we all will land in trouble. Credit card fraud has nothing to do with lease this was case of identity theft but she was using an excuse to stop me from going to police this added to my suspicion.

I logged a police complaint however did not let her know thinking she may try to destroy the evidence. Year has passed I did not hear anything from credit card company or police. Criminal is roaming free, enjoying her life and I am still under mental trauma and have lost trust on people…..☹️☹️

I would like to urge everyone reading this article to be very careful when dealing with people and trusting someone and know when crime knocks at your door and save yourself.

 

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You only live once

Stuff your eyes with wonder, live as if you’d drop dead in ten seconds. See the world. It’s more fantastic than any dream made or paid for in factories.” – Ray Bradbury

Few years ago I saw a Hindi movie “Zindagi na milegi dobara” (Meaning-You only get to live once). In this movie three friends take a trip together in which each one chooses a adventure sport which all three of them have to do together. One chooses scuba diving, second one sky diving and third one bull run. In this journey they conquer their fears, mend fences, heal wounds and fall in love with life.

Movie ends with beautiful poem urging us to fall in love with life…..(Shared below for my readers alongwith meaning in English)

Dilon mein tum apni
Betaabiyan leke chal rahe ho
Toh zinda ho tum

If you are moving
with an eagerness in your heart,
then you are alive..

Nazar mein khwabon ki
Bijliyaan leke chal rahe ho
Toh zinda ho tum

if you’re moving
with the sparks of dreams in your eyes,
then you’re alive..
Hawa ke jhokon ke jaise
Aazad rehna seekho
Tum ek dariya ke jaise
Lehron mein behna seekho

learn to live freely
like the gusts of wind,
Learn to flow in waves,
like a river does..
Har ek lamhe se tum milo
Khole apni baahein
Har ek pal ek naya sama
Dekhen yeh nigahaein

Meet every moment
with your arms open,
Every moment these eyes should
watch a new weather
Jo apni aankhon mein
Hairaniyan leke chal rahe ho
Toh zinda ho tum

If you’re moving with
a bewilderment in your eyes
then you are alive,
Dilon mein tum apni
Betaabiyan leke chal rahe ho
Toh zinda ho tum

If you are moving
with an eagerness in your heart,
then you are alive..

I am soon planning to go on my first solo adventure trip, will write about it once I am back….😎😎

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FLY=First Love Yourself

Few months ago I was laid off from my job, this was big blow to me, all through my career I had seen people getting laid off but never thought this would happen to me, I always had high performance rating but still I was laid off. ☹️☹️

It was emotional trauma to me for days I felt depressed and spent nights crying in my bed.I was very dedicated to my work, kind of workaholic person who did not like to spend time idle. I only took time off from work in case of personal emergency or when I am sick or if I have some travel plan. I never liked to take a day off just to sit idle at home to take rest or relax. No that was not me just not something acceptable to me. But now I was left with no option just to idle timeout till I find some other job.

Then while browsing on internet I came across a video with a title ” I quit my job after seeing this”. This video urged people to really live the life they want to, without regrets, it gave the message that life is not just work from Monday to Friday, putting up with jobs which they don’t like”,collect paychecks every month, pay the rent and wait for weekend, it is far more than that but fear of failure holds people back from their talents and their passion and leaves them with regrets that “if only I had……”. It gives an important message ” Everyone dies but not everybody lives

This video left me thinking Did I really live my life? What did I do last 12 years? Just lived a routine of going to work everyday and coming home, eat dinner and sleep, occasionally a small vacation or movie on weekend Is this all? So I decided that now that I have got time I will spend it my way, I will do things which I could not do till now.

Initially I got very upset when people saw me somewhere maybe walking on road on weekday during my usual working hours and asked me questions like ” Ohh you did not go to office today?” I had to find some excuse to hide the fact that I was laid off but over the time I read a few articles on LinkedIn which said that there is no shame in being laid off, I slowly started to accept the fact and started to hide less.

Just to kill time I started to watch ” Game of Thrones” all the seasons from one to six. In one of the episodes I came across a quote

Do not forget what you are and rest of the world will not, Wear it like an armour and it can never be used to hurt you

I deeply thought about this and realised the fact, till I feel ashamed of the fact that I was laid off, any question from anyone will keep on hurting me. Finally after a lot of self debate I am able to accept it and write openly about it for world to know and henceforth I will not hide from anyone but will face the world with confidence.

During the idle time I had I tried lot many thing like tried to cook different dishes some of which turned out well and some failed completely….., saw some good movies and  plays…..,  read a few good books…,prepared my bucket-list of things I wish to do…..,arranged for a family trip to North Indian states of Punjab  & Himachal (referred to as Devbhoomi – Land of God), away from hot humid climate to freezing cold winter in the lap of Himalayas, gave more time to my hobby of writing and added new sections under my blog.

Other than this I also studied the different investment option which yield better returns, risk involved and tax implications of the same, being from complete non-financial background I had to search of lot of website to understand things. But the knowledge I gained in this will prove to be useful in managing my finance over period of time.

Over this period I experienced days of gloom, when I felt defeated but overall when I look back I learned an important lesson that a job is not everything there is more to life and now I want to truly live before I die.

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Value of Life

A little boy went to his old grandpa and asked, “What’s the value of life?”
The grandpa gave him one stone and said, “Find out the value of this stone, but don’t sell it.”
The boy took the stone to an Orange Seller and asked him what its cost would be.
The Orange Seller saw the shiny stone and said, “You can take 12 oranges and give me the stone.”
The boy apologized and said that the grandpa has asked him not to sell it.
He went ahead and found a vegetable seller.
“What could be the value of this stone?” he asked the vegetable seller.
The seller saw the shiny stone and said, “Take one sack of potatoes and give me the stone.”
The boy again apologized and said he can’t sell it.
Further ahead, he went into a jewellery shop and asked the value of the stone.
The jeweler saw the stone under a lens and said, “I’ll give you 1 million for this stone.”
When the boy shook his head, the jeweler said, “Alright, alright, take two 24karat gold necklaces, but give me the stone.”
The boy explained that he can’t sell the stone.
Further ahead, the boy saw a precious stone’s shop and asked the seller the value of this stone.
When the precious stone’s seller saw the big ruby, he lay down a red cloth and put the ruby on it.
Then he walked in circles around the ruby and bent down and touched his head in front of the ruby. “From where did you bring this priceless ruby from?” he asked.
“Even if I sell the whole world, and my life, I won’t
be able to purchase this priceless stone.”
Stunned and confused, the boy returned to the grandpa and told him what had happened.
“Now tell me what is the value of life, grandpa?”
Grandpa said,
“The answers you got from the Orange Seller, the Vegetable Seller, the Jeweler & the Precious Stone’s Seller explain the value of our life…
You may be a precious stone, even priceless, but, people will value you based on their intellectual status, their level of information, their belief in you, their motive behind entertaining you, their ambition, their risk taking ability & ultimately their calibre.
So don’t fear, you will surely find someone who will discern your true value.”
*Respect yourself.*
*Don’t sell yourself cheap.*
*You are Rare, Unique, Original and the only one of your kind.*
*You are a masterpiece because you are the MASTER’S PIECE.*
*No one can Replace you.*
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Right Time

Valentine’s day has passed just yesterday,love is in the air. Even when you browse on social networking sites like Facebook you find photos of your friends with their partners celebrating this day of love together.

This makes all single people out their feel even more lonely and they too wish that by next Valentine they also have someone to celebrate. Is Valentine’s day only for couples? Is it bad to be single passed the marriageable age?

Myself being single past 30 I do understand how it feels when people keep on questioning you about your marriage plans? When you see all your friends getting married? How lonely it feels on Valentine’s day and so on😕😕

Are these or any other reasons sufficient to get married as soon as possible. According to me a big ” No” 

For getting married you need to find a right partner who understands you, loves you and will always support you and only when you find such a person then is right time to get married. Till then love yourself, live life to full and be happily single.

Few months back I had seen an advertisement on TV which expresses similar thoughts sharing it below for all my readers

 

 

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What women really want….

Young King Arthur was ambushed and imprisoned by the monarch of a neighboring kingdom. The monarch could have killed him, but was moved by Arthur’s youth and ideals. So the monarch offered him freedom, as long as he could answer a very difficult question. Arthur would have a year to figure out the answer; if, after a year, he still had no answer, he would be put to death.

The question: What do women really want?

Such a question would perplex even the most knowledgeable man, and, to young Arthur, it seemed an impossible query. But, since it was better than death, he accepted the monarch’s proposition to have an answer by year’s end. 

He returned to his kingdom and began to poll everybody: the princess, the prostitutes, the priests, the wise men, the court jester.  He spoke with everyone, but no one could give him a satisfactory answer.  Many people advised him to consult the old witch–only she would know the answer. 

The price would be high; the witch was famous throughout the kingdom for the exorbitant prices she charged.

The last day of the year arrived and Arthur had no alternative but to talk to the witch. She agreed to answer his question, but he’d have to accept her price first: The old witch wanted to marry Gawain, the most noble of the Knights of the Round Table and Arthur’s closest friend!

Young Arthur was horrified: She was hunchbacked and hideous, had only one tooth, smelled like sewage, made obscene noises … etc. He had never encountered such a repugnant creature. He refused to force his friend to marry her and have to endure such a burden.

Gawain, upon learning of the proposal, spoke with Arthur. He told him that nothing was too big a sacrifice compared to Arthur’s life and the preservation of the Round Table. Hence, their wedding was proclaimed, and the witch answered Arthur’s question thus:

What a woman really wants is to be in charge of her own life.

Everyone instantly knew that the witch had uttered a great truth and that Arthur’s life would be spared. And so it was. The neighboring monarch granted Arthur total freedom.

What a wedding Gawain and the witch had! Arthur was torn between relief and anguish. Gawain was proper as always, gentle and courteous.  The old witch put her worst manners on display, and generally made everyone very uncomfortable.

The honeymoon hour approached. Gawain, steeling himself for a horrific experience, entered the bedroom. But what a sight awaited him! The most beautiful woman he’d ever seen lay before him! The astounded Gawain asked what had happened. The beauty replied that since he had been so kind to her when she’d appeared as a witch, she would henceforth be her horrible, deformed self half the time, and the other half, she would be her beautiful maiden self. Which would he want her to be during the day, and which during the night? 

What a cruel question! Gawain pondered his predicament. During the day, a beautiful woman to show off to his friends, but at night, in the privacy of his home, an old witch? Or would he prefer having by day a hideous witch, but by night a beautiful woman with whom to enjoy many intimate moments?

Noble Gawain replied that he would let her choose for herself.

Upon hearing this, she announced that she would be beautiful all the time, because he had respected her enough to let her be in charge of her own life.

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Masks

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Last few months I encountered lot many different people and observed the real person behind the masks.Learnt a lesson on how mean and selfish people can be and still show as if they are caring and loving😕😕

It all started with my coming to USA, first bad experience I had was of corporate politics. I was always top performer in my team before I came to USA but on this new project I was bring treated like I am doing everything wrong and was kept out of most meetings, unnecessarily blamed for no fault of mine made to work late nights and weekends, leave aside any appreciation was constantly humiliated to such an extent that it could have broken my confidence or I might have landed into depression😕 and all this was done wearing a mask that “Based on your past performance we have high expectations from you” but what are these expectations? Where am I lacking? was never made clear to me.

Moving to USA I had my first experience of living alone away from family in a sharing accommodation.Slowly I adjusted to this new way of life and my roommate became my best friend. I was not very good cook whereas my roommate was expert in cooking, sometimes she used prepare very nice and tasty dishes which we had together, she showed me vegetarian options available in USA and we were having a great time together.I used to think inspite all bad experiences in office my home life is happy, I had developed full trust in my roommate. But one day just two days before vacating that house a phone call changed my reality, I realised that I am victim of major financial scam and based on some of details I got over the call it could not be an outsider it was someone who lived with me. Same person who I trusted completely and one who used to say “You are like a sister to me” had stabbed in my back.

I moved to new house and this time thought I will be cautious kept my documents locked. Soon got used to this place and then for few days my family also travelled to USA, travelled to all the places in USA which I wanted to see, did a lot of shopping and everything seemed to be going fine. When my family came from India my new roommate asked if they could get her some medicines for which she would pay and they brought that also but she took it for free and did not pay which I still ignored thinking no big deal as her overall behaviour was nice with me.I was soon going to travel back and I asked her for the returning back advance rent I had paid she calculated the amount she had to return but was deducting some excess amount which I pointed to her this made her angry, she not only deducted that excess amount but made me vacate the house two days in advance of my date of travel just to land me in trouble, make me homeless.I had to spend heavily in hotel because I had not recognised a greedy, mean and money minded person from behind the mask.

I had to go through lot of pain because I could not recognise the real person behind the mask and I have still not got justice in any of the above cases but I am still hopeful that one day all these people will face their karma, maybe I will not come to know but I will get justice that day…….

 

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Game of Life

In past few month I experienced a big setback in life, saw how people play games against you, experienced how cruel people can be, learnt a lesson of lifetime. Some days I just felt there is nothing left in life now and prayed for death😕😕

Days seemed to be dragging and long with practically nothing to do and  just to pass time I started watching some old movies and tv shows. Among these only some stories,scenes or dialogues left a deep impression on my mind and lifted my mood from depression, gave me the strength to cope with difficulties or hope to continue….

First one among them was

Shawshank Redemption– In this movie a banker is falsely accused of murdering his wife and her lover and sent to prison for life sentence.Inspite of all the hardship he faced in his days in prison he works towards betterment of prison library and also makes use of his banking knowledge to help the guards in money laundering and finally managed to escape after spending almost 20 years in prison and becomes a millionaire even though by illegal means.After seeing this I thought very deeply is my situation more worst than this guy no right?then why am I thinking of giving up ?why am I wishing to die ?  What if somebody posted politics with me ? What if all my efforts of past few years were wasted ? Knowledge which I gained till now is still with me, I will rebuild my life from ashes and achieve even better position than what I had before. At this juncture I remembered a proverb I had read somewhere “They tried to bury us but did not know we were seeds“.

Next among them are

The Bucket List – In this movie two terminally ill men decide to explore life and make a bucket list comprising all the things they haven’t tried before…This made me look back on my life did I really live me my life fully? If I were to die tommorow will I not have regrets about the things I did not do? So I started to prepare my own wish list , my own bucket list which I have already shared with my readers in my previous post..Sharing it again for my readers…

https://itsgautamihere.wordpress.com/2016/10/04/bucket-list/

Video on Facebook– While browsing on Facebook I saw a video posted which had warning as “This video may make you quit your job …” The video urged people watching to not waste a life working on a job, waiting for weekend and paying rent and in the end regret for things they wanted to do but did not do… Instead find their dream, their passion leaving fear of failure aside. This left me thinking what is my passion? what is it that will give me true happiness and satisfaction, I am yet to find my answer..

Last but not the least…

I am a sensitive person who gets upset on even small offending remarks from people. And over last few days I had to go through many offending question initially I tried to hide my failure from people giving false excuses but while watching old seasons of “Game of thrones” I came across this dialogue which made me realise that more and more I try to hide my failure from people more and more their questions will hurt me instead it is better to face my failure and boldly admit it.

Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you. ~Tyrion Lanniser, Game of Thrones

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Travel Diaries

Since childhood I loved travelling and have travelled to lot many places in India, some of which I have forgotten because I was too young but some have carved an image in my permanent memory and I will not be able to forget them….

1.Ropeway trolley in Darjeeling-This ride gives the magnificent and breathtaking view of the valley below covered by mist. It feels as if you are moving in through the clouds..

2.Tsomgo lake or Changu lake– This is a glacial lake located near India China border.Eventhough I visited this in summer still chilling cold in this region was too high for me to even get down from my car and walk for few minutes around. This was my first experience of freezing temperature and will always remain in my mind.

3. Desert safari in Dubai-This drive through sand dunes in desert gives you feeling of roller coaster ride and leaves you screaming as the car drives through the desert and you also get the beautiful view of the sunset in the desert alongwith the Belle dance at night.

4.Niagara Falls– Breathtaking view of this magnificent falls in day and with illumination in night is a must see for everyone seeing the fireworks at night and the maid of mist ride was a bonus.Seeing this was my dream since ages which was fulfilled few months ago.

5.Newyork night tours-Travelling on the top deck of the bus watching the lights of time square as the bus moves on and later having the magnificent view of Manhattan skyline and a drive over the Manhattan bridge and the Brooklyn bridge is a once I n lifetime experience.

6.Grand Canyon-All over the internet this natural wonder is in the list of the places which you need to see before you die and which indeed it is..Unique combinations of geologic color and erosional forms decorate a canyon that is 277 river miles (446km) long, up to 18 miles (29km) wide, and a mile (1.6km) deep. Grand Canyon overwhelms our senses through its immense size.

7.Harry Potter ride at Universal Studios– This magical 3D experience makes you forget everything for the time being and leaves you feeling as if you are riding on a broom in the magical world of Hogwarts. This leaves you completely shaken and is most exciting of all theme park rides….

Somethings are to be seen with your own eyes and experienced with your own senses, words cannot describe them fully… This list is never ending and new and new places will keep on getting added to this as I travel.

Lastly I would like to say only one thing which I had read somewhere

“Travel is the only thing which makes you richer even after you spend money