Loom of time

Beautiful poem I had read long time back in one of my English textbooks, sharing it here for my readers
Man’s life is laid in the loom of time
To a pattern he does not see,
While the weavers work and the shuttles fly
Till the dawn of eternity.

Some shuttles are filled with silver threads
And some with threads of gold,
While often but the darker hues
Are all that they may hold.

But the weaver watches with skillful eye
Each shuttle fly to and fro,
And sees the pattern so deftly wrought
As the loom moves sure and slow.

God surely planned the pattern:
Each thread, the dark and fair,
Is chosen by His master skill
And placed in the web with care.

He only knows its beauty,
And guides the shuttles which hold
The threads so unattractive,
As well as the threads of gold.

Not till each loom is silent,
And the shuttles cease to fly,
Shall God reveal the pattern
And explain the reason why

The dark threads were as needful
In the weaver’s skillful hand
As the threads of gold and silver
For the pattern which He planned.

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100th Day of Year 2018

Today 10th April is the 100th day of year 2018, it seems as if just few days back we welcomed the year 2018 and now even before we realised 100 days have passed…. ever thought what did we do in these 100 days ? what did we gain ? what did we lose? How many of our new year resolutions are still active?I decided  to look back on my 100 days with above questions in my mind…

Sound Mind in Sound Body

As the old saying goes “Sound Mind in Sound Body” I had made a resolution this year to walk atleast 2.5km (1.55 miles) daily and also purchased a fitness band to keep a track of same. Today I am happy to announce that when I checked the data I found that on an average I have walked 3KM (1.86 miles) per day.

“Once a year go some place you’ve never been before”- Dalai Lama

Being Travel lover and blogger, I had made a resolution that every year I will go on atleast one vacation to a place I have never been before, can be domestic or International. This year I went to Kerala (State in South India) popularly known as God’s own country, land of coconut trees and beautiful beaches,soothing backwaters. To have glimpse of this popular tourist destination in India check the youtube video below

Take up one idea. Make that one idea your life – think of it, dream of it, live on that idea. Let the brain, muscles, nerves, every part of your body, be full of that idea, and just leave every other idea alone. This is the way to success. – Swami Vivekananda

For years I was looking for some work which will make me happy not something which you do for a paycheck but finding your true joy, your true passion in life. And just few days back I found that work I started writing a technical blog to share the knowledge I gained over years working as ERP  consultant. As of now this blog is completely free and available to anyone who wants gain more knowledge. I am happy to share that in just 5 days of publishing this blog has got more than 1.1K views.

https://peoplesoftinterviewguide.wordpress.com/

 

This was my review of past 100 days do look back on yours and also do let me know your thought on above post in comments below……..

Life is precious

After every few days we read a news about suicide reason can be anything failure in exam or fear of failure in exam, failure in love relationship, issues in marital relationship or workplace issues or ragging in college etc. Are these reasons sufficient to end your life? What about the people who love you, care for you how will this effect them?Does failure in one particular area of life mean you are a failure and have to end your life?

I have faced lot many ups and downs in life, in a span of few months I was cheated and made a victim of financial fraud worth almost $1500 by someone I considered friend, few months after that bank where I had deposited my saving was freezed due to bad loans and I lost access to my own money, I lost my job and could not get other one for months…….

My whole world turned upside down I spent days crying and feeling depressed, sometimes I even felt that I don’t want to live I want to die …………………….

In such moments of gloom I kept on thinking why me? why is my life so hard ?What did I do wrong?why am I being punished?

On such days of gloom while thinking about past I remembered those days when I used to take my dad to hospital for his treatment when I used to pass around the cancer ward and see young kids  suffering from the disease, some of them had feeding tubes (feeding tube is a medical device used to provide nutrition to patients who cannot obtain nutrition by mouth, are unable to swallow safely, or need nutritional supplementation) , even eating normal food from their mouth a basic need was denied to them……Still they are living, fighting for their life, inspite of all the pain they have to go through….. Then isn’t my life better than them why should I even think of dying?

Whenever you feel low in life, just think about the people out there who are not as fortunate as you are , who maybe more than happy to have your life, don’t give your life for anyone or any reason, nobody is worth, no reason is worth it………

 

Childhood Nostalgia

Few days back I heard a hindi song being played

Ye Daulat bhi lelo

Ye Shoharat bhi lelo

Bhale chinlo mujhse meri jawani

Magar muzhko lauta do wo bachpan ka sawaan

Wo kagaaz ki kashti wo baarish ka pani..

Meaning-Take away all my wealth, my fame and even my youth but return me my childhood, days when I used to float paper boats in rain water, return me those days.

While listening to this my mind flew back to my childhood memories when during rainy days when schools got closed due to water logging we used to still make our way till school wading through knee deep water for shear fun of walking and playing in water, fact that our clothes will get dirty, we might catch some infection etc never came to the mind back then.

Hitech games on smartphones cannot match the joy of playing every evening on swings with friends,playing card games with friends in afternoon,running around a table in home trying to catch each other etc.

All such uncountable memories of those carefree, stress free days make us reliaze that joy of life can be found in simple things and even memories of those days brings smile on our face and tears in our eyes…

Strength-Facing Hardship or Moving Away?

Few days back I read a post on facebook about domestic violence wherein a Husband educated IT professional used to beat and torture his wife for years, he even made her maintain excel sheet with details of daily household chores and provide him with regular updates of daily task and if he found any details missing in the sheet he used to beat and abuse her.He even threatened her to kill their daughter, finally after years of such torture wife decided to move out and seek divorce.Why and how was she able to bear this for so long about 8-10 years is a big question?
Daily we hear such stories about domestic abuse, dowry deaths,suicides for years women keep on facing such abuse but still stay with such husbands why some say it is for the kids, some for the fear of what will society say, some due to lack of support from parents and family.
Many of daily soaps in India are female centered which depict a female character with unrealistic standards who has so much love for her husband, family , in laws that no matter how they treat her she does not back answer,faces all the abuse with smiling face,her only moto in life is that once she is has arrived in her Husbands’s house in “Doli” (Meaning-Palanquin used in Marriage procession) now she will only leave this house on “Arthi” (Meaning-Funeral bier).Is this right thinking?
Facing all kinds of wrong behaviour,physical or mental torture and still continuing may be considered by some people as sign of strength. And moving out, leaving such people behind might be considered by some people as lack of ability to face difficulties or running away from hard situations, but according to me it takes more courage to break free from hard situations, without worrying about what will people say,leaving all the future worries aside and just move away.
So whether it is an abusive relationship at home or mental torture at workplace just let go of such things which bring you down, free yourself, life is too short to waste on such people who do not value you.

Reading the book of life

Life is a book and those who do not travel, read only one page

I came across this quote somewhere while browsing on the internet and felt like very true. Each place you visit, leaves an impression on your mind, each experience you have changes you into a new person, each journey you undertake teaches you something different and gives you uncountable memories.

I have traveled a lot, and had a glimpse of many wonders of nature like vast oceans, cool and windy beaches, deep canyons, desert sands, green mountains to snow clad peaks of Himalayas, mesmerizing views of sunset and sunrise……But travel is not just viewing the attractions,attractions are just a part of it. Along with this you also get to learn about people, local cultures, traditions, taste of local cuisines, adjusting to new weather, chilling cold or scorching heat or heavy rains.

In my travel I have meet a lot of people and saw both good and bad faces of human nature, I have seen cab drivers charging exorbitant amounts from tourist by pretending destination is far, hotels trying to extract more money from tourist if you arrive without advance booking and try to book on the spot,people pretending to help you with loading  your luggage in bus or train without asking and then demand some unreasonable amount of money for the same, waiters who stand on your head to see if you keep any tip or not, people selling items at double price in tourist spot etc.

Along with this bad face, I have also seen the other side of the coin, I have seen some people who go out of their way to help other travelers, like in one of my journey in a hill station in Himachal Pradesh (State in North India) , I had to board a early morning bus to my next destination and bus stop was very near to my Hotel, early in the morning I just went to the bus stop to enquire about the bus, the conductor said the bus leaves in 10 mins, I told him I have to get my luggage from hotel, after knowing this he came with me to hotel and helped me to quickly carry my luggage to the bus so that I don’t miss it.  On another such journey after long bus ride when we finally reached near our destination, the conductor told us to get down little before the bus stand as we can get taxis to hotel easily from there, not only this he himself went and negotiated with taxi driver and aske d him to shows us few good hotels so that we can select any one from them.

In this life when even close friends cheat each other for few bucks and we have to be on constant guard to save ourselves from people around us, such strangers show us a different face of world and make us believe humanity still exists.

This is what travelling is, it is not just sightseeing, but collection of all such experiences which  shows us both the ugly and beautiful face of human nature.Some things can only be learnt by experiencing it yourselves and not by reading or listening to others and for that you have to travel. As someone rightly said

I am not the same having seen the moon shine on the other side of the world.

Carpe Diem

Few months ago just a day before a long weekend on a Friday morning stampede occurred on a railway station bridge in Mumbai,  people lost their lives. Most of them were on their daily commute to work, eagerly awaiting the long weekend, making plans for celebrating the Hindu festival of Dassera, planning for family outing for long weekend.In few minutes all those dreams were crashed.

Everywhere we read and hear instructions not to cross railway lines, use footover bridges for safety. But these people lost their lives inspite of taking a safe route, something which nobody had imagined happened.

In a second incident a fire broke in a pub just two-three days before New year’s Eve and again people lost their lives, some of them were celebrating a friend’s birthday, some had come to Mumbai to witness new year’s celebration in Mumbai. Alas all those dreams were crashed😕😕.

In this life we keep on making plans for future, but we don’t know what next second holds for us. Sometimes we want to say something to a loved one, catch up with a old friend, go on a vacation, shop for things we love, relax and read a good old book etc but keep on postponing it for some reason or another and then one fine day there is no time left to do that.

Life changes in a blink of eye, so don’t wait for special occasions, today is the special day of your life. Always remember

Burn the candles,Use the nice sheets, Wear the pearls.
Don’t save anything for special occasion.
Today is special enough.- Regina Brett

Finish to Phoenix…A Journey

Years ago I met Gargi (name changed for privacy) a simple middle classed Indian girl who completed her Engineering in Information Technology from not so reputed college with a Pass Class. Those were the days of boom of IT service industry in India.

Most of the reputed IT companies till date in India demand a first class for freshers and  jobs are  filled through campus placement in reputed colleges. So Gargi was left with little but no options, she tried to apply for jobs using job sites but did not get any response. Months passed and she started loosing hope.

One day through somebody’ s reference she was called for an interview since it was her first interview without asking much details about the position she went for the interview. Few days after that she was called to join the company, without any formal letter just  with an oral confirmation, Gargi went to office for the first day. When she asked for the letter she was told she will get it in few days.

Gargi’ s job profile was that of a hardware Engineer and salary meager Rs 2500 (much lower than standard back in those days also), little did she have any idea of the work she was expected to do. Looking at the few trainees around she learnt how to assemble a PC and install the Operating system. Nobody around her explained her anything about work they just said you have to learn on your own, nobody assigned her any work also. She used to go to office every morning sit for 9 hours and go back home in evening. Life seemed like a drudgery but she had no choice as she had got this job with great difficulty and could not muster the courage to leave it.

One month passed this way and suddenly one day she was asked to leave and collect her pay cheque after few days, she was shocked, after waiting for months she had finally got a job and it was lost. It was not that she loved this job in fact day by day it was becoming more of punishment but now she was again a fresher with a pass class.

Much to her surprise within 15 days she was called for an interview in a small company, she was asked to solve an online IQ test and then leave. She went home and was just having her lunch when she got a call to join on the next working day. On her first day she was not assigned any work she started feeling worried what if these people also ask me to leave after a month or so then what, will I be able to survive here or not.

After two or three days she was assigned her first task of programming, she struggled for few days learning new technology and all along this, till she completed her first task she was worried that she will get fired if she cannot complete this. Another thing about this company was there were constant songs being played as everyone around was music lover. One such song particularly touched her as it matched her situation.

Song was about a “Broken winged bird ,who was robbed in such a way that he could never fly, down came he crashing on the ground but still dreamed of clouds (flying), in his broken pieces he saw the will of God and smiled, after losing his wings only he learned how to fly” .

She also felt like she was broken winged bird when she was fired from her first job, all her dreams crashed.But over a period of time she realized that this was God’s will which redirected her from job she hated to a career in a field she always wanted.

Once she completed her first task she got her confidence back that I will survive in this corporate world.After that days and years passed she learnt new things, switched on to new job and become a successful IT software Consultant. Had she not been fired from the first job in a month she would have been stuck in a job she hated and would have missed the career opportunities lying before her.

Sometimes we experience failures in life, things do not go the way we planned but later in life we realise this was God’s way to redirect us to something better.

Truly Rich

Few days ago one of my friends tagged an other friend in an FB post. The post showed a picture of “a safe with bundles of INR 2000 notes and said that tag a friend who has this much cash but still says I am poor”. Immediately a fight started ( not a serious one) where both of them started pulling each others leg by calling the other person rich. And soon I was also tagged by them in the post to decide who is richest.

I decided to pull both their legs and said one of you is rich NRI and other is richest person in India. To which one of them replied “I am richest not in money but in friends“. “Rich in friends” this answer left me thinking …….

I have spent most of my life in crowded city of Mumbai where families of four or five people live in a single bedroom house or some times even in a single room house.I stayed in USA where I have seen people have two or three bedroom or even bigger houses but are staying alone and have keep pets for company. After a days hard work when you return home, you have luxurious three bedroom apartment with all amenities but no one to talk to, no one to share how your day was or you have small but cosy home with a family with whom you can share your happiness, your sorrow, your struggles. Who is really rich of the two?

I am not saying money is not important or you should not be rich, certainly it is important you cannot live without it and there is nothing wrong in striving to earn more money to improve your financial status. Only thing I am saying you should not loose everything while running after money. Money can buy you lot many things but you cannot talk to it or share your joy, your pain your struggles with it for this you need friends.

When I look back at my career graph I never earned very high package or achieved anything great. I lived a average life, I earned enough to live a comfortable life but not a very high amount. Sometimes I compared myself with some of my colleagues with similar years of experience who had achieved much more growth in terms of salary or position than me and I used to feel bad about myself as if I am a loser what did I earn after all these years? Few days back I found the answer to this question I have few of my colleagues or my juniors who changed over a period of time from colleagues to friends, who I know will always speak good about me whether I am around or not , I earned trust and goodwill of people with whom I worked this is far more important for me than the so-called material success. After this I felt no I am not a loser I am a winner in my own terms……

18 resolutions for 2018

Today on the first day of new year 2018 I have planned 18 things to do in this year

Fitness (both body and mind)

  • Walk atleast 2.5 km every day with no cell phone around, disconnecting yourself from all the phone calls, social networking apps and alerts
  • Meditate twice a day for 5 mins each to reduce the stress
  • Reduce the intake of fried food and eat more healthy stuff like fruits.Most difficult of all……

Reading

  • Read atleast one good book each month so about 12 in year.

Music

  • Listen to any of my favorite songs for atleast 15 mins a day to calm the mind and reduce stress.

Travel

  • Go on solo trip to any destination in India preferably in months of Jan or Feb before the summer starts
  • Add one more stamp on my passport, Go on International trip to either Malaysia or Australia or Europe

Learning 

  • Do some experiments in kitchen not only to satisfy taste buds but also to improve my cooking skills
  • Learn something new maybe playing a musical instrument or a foreign language not yet decided
  • Being an ERP technical consultant I will also study new technologies to upgrade my technical skills
  • Improve my financial knowledge, learn more about investment options to manage my savings more efficiently.

Blogging

  • Till now I have been writing this blog in English but now I am Planning to add a new section to my blog in my Mother tongue “Marathi” Section will be labelled “Maiboli (meaning Mother tongue)”. English section will also be continued and not stopped.
  • I will be more consistent in writing and will try to publish atleast 3-4 articles each month on my blog.

Entertainment

  • Bored of long running seemingly never ending Indian daily soaps I have decided to cut myself off completely from them. Instead I have started watching more of International TV shows like “This is Us” , “Modern Family”,”Silicon Valley” etc this year, will add few more of such classic shows in this list. Sad part is there will be no season of “Game of thrones” this year.
  • Till now I did not have much liking for the movies. Last year I watched few very good movies (Genre- Drama) like “Wonder”, “Forrest Gump”, “127 hours” etc which were different from most of the  movies, which revolve around romance, action or comedy. This year also I am planning to identify such different movies based on their reviews and watch them.

Changing Myself

  • I am little reserved in nature and do not mingle easily with new people but this year I will try to change myself be a little more outgoing and try to make new friends
  • I am sensitive person and slightest remark from anyone can bring tears in my eyes this year I will try to be more strong and will not let small things hurt me easily.
  • Sometimes while watching comedy movies I saw people around me laughing loudly till their belly hurts, but I can only manage to give a small smile not more than that.I cannot experience the real joy, cannot feel free but this year I will try to change this loosen up a little, live very freely without worrying what others will think about me.

Not sure how many of these I will be able to achieve this year but there is different kind of joy in planning. Sometimes Journey is more beautiful than destination.